I must admit I am a perfectionist at heart...
I want to make a success of everything I do. If I were to take up a project, I want to deliver it to perfection; If I have to make a presentation I want it to be perfect. I think a lot and from different perspectives to turn out a perfect piece of work.
But I am realizing that it is okay sometimes to not be perfect....
During my daughter's term exams, there was a part of her studies which was difficult and would require a lot more practice. The day before the exams, we were short of time and there was no time to revise. While I stressed about it, my daughter saw no reason to do so. She said if there were questions on that chapter they would at the most carry two - three marks.It was okay not to get full marks in one exam - what's the big deal she said.
Got me thinking - really what was the big deal? If she did not get full marks and she was less than perfect in her third grade what really was the big deal. I guess, I am learning to be cool from the kids :).
Sometimes, the imperfections lend beauty and charm. My son, when he was a kid would love to dine at hotels and appreciated the good food. Now as a young teenager, I find he loves to eat at home. Even his most favorite dishes, he insists I cook it for him. While I can cook the dishes, I am sure they are far from perfect and perhaps nothing close to what is available in the restaurant. But he relishes the less than perfect dishes at home.
At office, I see sometimes the upcoming managers do work which is less than perfect. It is not well rounded, all perspectives are not well thought out, but the innovative approach, underlying passion and good intentions shine through. And I am impressed...
Over the years I have also realized, that most times, conditions are not perfect whether at home or office. In any situation, I have learnt to identify that which can change and that which cannot be changed. I have learnt to accept that which cannot be changed.
It is the less than perfect conditions that bring out the best in us.
Over the years I have also realized, that most times, conditions are not perfect whether at home or office. In any situation, I have learnt to identify that which can change and that which cannot be changed. I have learnt to accept that which cannot be changed.
It is the less than perfect conditions that bring out the best in us.
Yes Maneesha, I have a similar opinion. I believe a day has just 24 hrs and it is practically impossible to fit everything in a day. You need to prioritize and act.
ReplyDeleteEarlier I always wanted to focus on my career and hence had a maid & a cook to help me, so that I could give my best to office.
During my pregnancy days, my priority changed. Doctor advised me to take rest. I took a break from office and took rest at home.
After my daughter was born, we went to US since my husband was transferred on a project there. In US I was a house-wife. I took care of my daughter, did all the cooking, watched a lot of television, packed tiffin for my husband (all that I had missed while I was working and was craving to do).
Back in India, I resumed office. Again stopped cooking or watching television. Now I am again focused on my professional career.
As compared to my other colleagues of same age, I may be a bit behind....coz they have been working continuously whereas I have breaks associated with my career, but never-the-less I have good times associated with me. I have got a chance to prove myself as a wife and a mother :) . And I am sure in a matter of time I will be in power with my colleagues at work too....
I am sure you will do.
ReplyDeleteLike you, I also had taken a break of nearly 2 years and I still cherish those moments of being just a mother and wife. The memory acts like a kind of the 'Oasis' in my mind in these hectic days.
As for career, I realized, there are those years you feel stagnant and those years when you see tremendous growth. The cycles themselves teach you a lot.